The Price Of Ignorance

Presentation Lee McKing and price of ignorance

There is a saying that ignorance is bliss but is it truly blissful to be ignorant?

Well it sort of depends on what one is ignorant about

Generally speaking I think that ignorance will create more issues in the long run

You see, ignorance is due to being unaware of certain information, or a lack of understanding of a certain concept

Naturally, if you are unaware of a problem, then the problem doesn’t affect you right?

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Now to some extent, that is true

If you do not know that a problem exist, then you won’t feel troubled, anxiety, stress etc over it

At the same time, that also means the problem will continue doesn’t it?

And if the problem affects in other ways, to other people, then it is in fact spreading issues and negativity to a greater reach

Unless they too are ignorant of the problem, which may or may not be possible depending on the situation and the problem

Let’s say you are a smoker and you do not know that smoking increases risk of lung cancer

On top of that if you smoke at home, second hand smoking for your family has a greater risk of developing too

But if everyone doesn’t know this, then all seems fine and dandy until one day, someone ends up in hospital in pain and suffering

Let me give another example

If for example you have financial issues but you do not let your family know

Then what might your children do?

They might continue to ask for money won’t they?

Putting a strain on you

And if you don’t tell them that actually you are having financial issues but continue to give them money regardless

Then the amount requested gets more and more

Until perhaps one day you explode in anger and that can leave a stain in the relationship

Or you get into greater debt to ensure they continue their ignorance

So to me, ignorance usually creates greater issues in the long run

Here’s an actual case study

So there was this couple who came to me and I had separate chats with them

The wife had anxiety, depression and OCD for cleanliness

Her OCD started due to a series of infections that affected her child, thus making her very concerned for germs and bacteria

Over the years, such anxiety and concern for keeping things clean made her develop depression

The husband on the other hand, felt there was no issue

Rather, he felt that the wife is too smart and thus, she got issues

He admitted to being ignorant of many things and that is also why he has no issues

Now if we stop here, what else do you think might be happening behind closed doors?

Technically, we won’t know right?

Because the original focus was the OCD, then that will be it

However, the wife gradually shared more issues she was experiencing

Such as the husband doesn’t really communicate with her at all, and in fact, when he talk to her, it is always for sex

When the husband does house chores (perhaps due to his ignorance of how to do certain house chores), he will usually mess up and thus, she decided to do everything herself

Perhaps he attempted to wash the clothes but the stain remained so she had to do it again

I won’t share the other examples because I believe by now you are starting to see the price of ignorance

Of course, one can learn can’t they?

However, over the years, the husband hasn’t learnt and still continue this way

Which also means it is putting a strain on the relationship

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What can be done about ignorance?

If you are reading this and realize you are ignorant of certain things, then first rejoice

Rejoice because you are aware of your ignorance and thus, you can begin a positive change

There is a very simple 3A formula to solving problems in life

1. A – Awareness

If you are unaware of any problem, you cannot hope to resolve it

So when you are aware of it, you can move to the second A

2. A – Acceptance

There are some who are aware of the problem, but deny it or pretend it doesn’t exist

Perhaps they do not want to admit they have issues, or think it will disappear by itself when you pretend the issues are not there

Thus only when you accept there is an issue to solve, can we move towards solving it

3. A – Action

If you take no actions even after being aware of an issue and accepting it exists, it doesn’t get solve either does it?

Of course, if you take the wrong actions then you won’t solve it either

Only with the right action can the issue be truly solved

Thus, if you are aware of your ignorance and accept that you are ignorant, then we just need the right action

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The action is pretty simple

That is to have an open mind and to learn

Keeping an open mind allows you to be more aware of things

It allows you to develop new perspectives

Seeing things from different angles which might help you to solve other issues too

After which then you can truly learn better

Learning new information, new ideas, how things work or are supposed to work

This seem counter-intuitive doesn’t it?

I know what you mean hahaha

If we look back at the above couple, was the husband aware he was doing things wrongly?

Perhaps he was, I do not believe the wife didn’t explain to him what he did wrong

Of course, if she didn’t explain, then did the husband not realize something was wrong when the wife went to wash the clothes a second time?

Before you focus on her OCD, I also want you to think all the way back to when her OCD might not have started or just starting

Because the child didn’t get sick yet for example

So if he didn’t know, it is possible he didn’t want to know – a sense of denial

If he did know, he didn’t accept that his method was wrong, and thus, he will continue to repeat his mistake

However if he did accept that his method was wrong, and learn the better method to wash clothes, to ensure stains are gone or whatever, there will be less strain in the relationship yes?

To be fair, they might have other issues which still put a strain, like the lack of proper communication

If he was aware that he only talk to the wife for sex and nothing else, and that she was not feeling comfortable about it being the only thing he wants from her, could he have started a change to be more of a conversationist?

Yes it is possible

Unless of course there was no love in the marriage and to him its all about sex

That will be a different story leading to a different action to be taken

Which leads to another question

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What if one is ignorant of one’s ignorance?

That is very sad indeed

This could be the result of a high ego leading to one thinking they are the best in the world or something

Yet having a closed mind and not accepting of other perspectives or ideas

Even if one has an open mind, there will be some effect still

Now of course there might be some people with a low self esteem due to childhood or school related issues that affect one’s ability to learn

Which can lead to a development of ignorance too

The one who is open minded and accepting of new ideas will be able to break through the ignorance

Unfortunately the one who is closed minded and not accepting will take a while, it is possible they will not change at all too

Sometimes when I encounter such clients, I will wait after sharing what I can with them

If they are close minded and do not accept what I share, I will wait until the price of ignorance claims something from them

Perhaps, only then will they start to be aware of their ignorance and foolishness

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